June 16, 2018 · Real Estate · (No comments)

Submitted by: Shevach Pepper

In many families, there comes a time when adult children find themselves caring for their elderly parents. This can be an exhausting, rewarding task that certainly has its ups and downs. Care of elderly parents requires patience, tolerance and remembering to take care of yourself as well as your family and your parent. That can be a mighty big job and it can be overwhelming at times. It is important to remember that people who care for elderly parents need a good support system – and a respite from time to time. You can’t do it all and you won’t be perfect, so take some time for yourself now and then. It is also important to remember when caring for elderly parents is to remember that they are human. They still have feelings, desires and needs, even if they are unable to express them well.

When you are caring for your elderly parents, keep in mind that their physical health is important, but their emotional health is just as important. A person who can no longer care for himself or herself can become frustrated and depressed. This frustration and depression can give way to anger and as the caregiver and person closest to them (thus safe) you may become the target for their anger. Don’t take it personally. Do not allow yourself to be abused, but let a lot of it roll right off of your back.

You may find that your patience is tested sometimes because your elderly parent may struggle to get the right words out when they speak or move very slowly. Though they may not function like they did when they were young, your elderly parents still have dignity – and feelings. Tread softly and try not to allow your impatience to get in the way of your compassion. Put yourself in their position. They are having difficulties and some patience and love will go a long way in warding off depression. Show them respect and allow them to maintain their dignity as much as possible.

If you do get irritated and frustrated with your elderly parents, take a moment to consider what they are experiencing. This is particularly true if they were forced into retirement or are impaired in some way. In such cases your elderly parents may experience any or all of these:

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1. low self esteem

2. no self identity

3. no self worth (jobs give you a feeling that you help society)

4. boredness

5. loneliness

6. have some financial burdens

7. no motivation to get up in morning (this is not clinical depression although it that is a very real possibility)

8. poor health (even just aches and pains can drag a person down)

Consider this: You are walking your elderly parents through the final stage of their lives. You may literally wake one morning and they will no longer be with you. Life is temporary and your situation of caring for your elderly parents is temporary. Savor the good times and make the minutes count. When they are gone, there will be a time that you will think back to the final days, weeks, months and remember things that you said, did and even thought. What do you want to remember? Do you want to smile when you think back to this time? Or do you want to feel regret? Remember, you are making the memories that you will recall tomorrow.

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June 7, 2018 · Real Estate · (No comments)

Submitted by: Roni Weisberg-Ross

While taken seriously enough to be a legally reportable offense categorized alongside child abuse as either a misdemeanor or a felony – elder abuse does not seem to be taken as seriously by the public. Perhaps elders do not appear to be as helpless as children, but many times they are. And if helplessness is the yardstick, how does it account for the fact that domestic violence, which is not legally reportable, arouses more consternation and receives more attention and media coverage. Perhaps its because of national neglect in respecting, supporting and caring for elders in general. Whatever the explanation, elder abuse is on the rise and in the coming years will become pervasive due to an exploding elder population and the simultaneous increase in Alzheimers a disease that ravages the mind and turns elders into confused, unruly and dependent children.

What constitutes Elder Abuse? It is the physical, sexual, emotional and/or financial abuse of older people (over 65 years), usually by family members or caretakers. Abuse occurs in both isolated settings and in nursing institutions by staff members. Whether the behavior is termed abusive, neglectful or exploitative will probably depend on how frequently the mistreatment occurs, its duration, severity and consequences. (World Report on Violence and Health) It can happen for a variety of reasons a debilitating physical or mental illness and/or unwanted long term proximity to the elder which wears down the family member or caretaker as well as greed, anger or money problems in the case of financial abuse. It is a growing problem presently affecting hundreds of thousands of elderly people in the United States, yet it is estimated that only one out of 14 incidents are reported.

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In 2010, the eldest baby boomers turned 65. During the next 30 years this population one of the largest segments of our society – is on track to live longer and more than double the cases of Alzheimers disease in the U.S. An estimated 10 million American baby boomers will develop Alzheimers in their lifetime placing enormous strains on the U.S. health-care system and the already overburdened network of caregivers, a new report predicts. (Washington Post, 3/18/2008) Presently, there are 5 million Americans living with the disease not all of them elders. With this statistic in mind, elder abuse will increase exponentially. Why? Because people afflicted with this disease are difficult to take care of and easy to exploit.

A recent article in the New York Times entitled The Financial Time Bomb of Longer Lives focused on age related expenditures by government. The demographic shift that is taking place for the first time in history, people aged 65 and over are about to outnumber children under 5 means that this group is likely to shape the future of our national economic health and financial policies. Having to care for and support our elder family members will impact health care, housing, jobs, business policies, retirement and retirement funding, environmental issues and education. We will no longer be able to ignore this population. We are going to have to take them very seriously and begin to adjust our institutions or we will drown under the enormous economic and emotional burden they create. To begin with, we need to make psychological shifts so that elders are no longer perceived as a burden and potential debt load but as viable, valuable individuals with a lifetime of experience and wisdom to offer. This attitude adjustment will have the added benefit of reducing elder abuse.

To address the impact in more tangible ways we have to take a look at the institutions presently in place and begin to alter them so that they will more effectively accommodate this population. Health care, residential centers, community services, support groups, non-profit and private sector jobs, and education for caretakers to stem elder abuse are all areas where attention, growth and transformation are required. We can no longer stick our heads in the sand and continue to view elders needs as a personal problem confined to their immediate family. They are a significant part of our society. They are living longer, growing larger and the concurrent health and financial problems are looming – threatening to unravel our social fabric.

Roni Weisberg-Ross LMFT

2011

About the Author: West Los Angeles based psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, clinical depression and social anxiety

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June 4, 2018 · Real Estate · (No comments)

Submitted by: Roni Weisberg-Ross L.M.F.T.

The following words and poetry were written by Kallel Hunter. She has graciously allowed me to share them with you.

My name is Kallel and I am 13 years old. I live in the U.K. and have Irish, Jamaican and Barbadian in me. I also have two sisters and 3 brothers. I am the eldest. We don t live together anymore. Two are living with my mum in Birmingham; one is living with her mum (my granny) in Leicester and two are living with me and my dad and my step mom.

Living with my mom was like keeping a secret and living two lives. She drank and made us lie to everyone. She called us unpleasant names and moved us around all the time. She used me as a slave, used emotional blackmail and made us risk our education all for a fool she followed around. Living with my mum was draining me and finally, I had to leave. Many people didn t know and still don t know the real reason I left. I m not doing it out of spite, I just want to better myself and not feel so negative anymore.

The things that inspired me to start writing poetry were mainly my emotions and to try and understand things around me mainly my mum. Poetry to me is like a friend to talk to, but with my emotions which is a good thing and I enjoy doing it. Sometimes it s not good things that inspire people. But what I find is that whatever inspires a person, they have the power to change it in to something positive.

THE TONGUE

People are always talking

But they don t listen to what they say,

Too scared to face up to people

So their spiteful tongue just rolls away

Words will never hurt you

That s what you all expect

Then after it s like bruises and scars

A pain you ll never mentally forget

It stays in your head

But repeats in your mind

Twists your personality

As you blame yourself all the time

The words are like an emotional vampire

That brings you to defense

But too late!

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It has already drank most of

Your happiness and made you feel useless

And stressed

We have got a whole dictionary

Of right words to use

So why do we sometimes choose

Wrong?

Next time you speak to somebody

Think before you use your powerful tongue!

IT WAS YOU!

It was you!

That destroyed me!

Made me disheveled

Left me on the ground

It was you!

That weakened me

And had a firm grip

To drag me down

All these years I was blinded

Thought you were always there

To love me, to hold me

But selfishly didn t care

You! Compulsive liar

A tongue that slithers in your moth

Every lie is an excuse why

You can t unleash me out

Try to make me heartless

While you were in control

As your jealousy and hatred

Sinks sluggishly

Into your precious

Soul

BEHIND YOU

When you are walking on the road

Don t feel like you are all alone

Because I ll be with you, every step,

Behind you

Every step you take, and every direction,

I will give you guidance and amour you

With protection

Because I ll be with you every step

Behind you

Trust in me, believe in me, and have faith

As my blanket of love will promise

Not to break away

In the journey of life, distractions

Can make you fall

But my love will still go on

Just know I m here to call

In the journey of life, you figure

Things out for yourself

I ll be guarding you

Whenever you need help

No matter what you say or what you do

I ll be with you

Every step behind you

Roni Weisberg-Ross LMFT

2010

About the Author: West Los Angeles based psychotherapist specializing in the treatment of sexual abuse, emotional abuse, clinical depression and social anxiety.

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April 18, 2018 · Real Estate · (No comments)

byAlma Abell

If you are looking for a safe, supportive, assisted living facility for yourself or your loved one, consider Abbington. Abbington offers a host of amenities. Each suite includes a private bathroom and kitchenette. In addition to the 50 single-floor apartments that allow each resident to have their own personal space, the Retirement Community in Coshocton, OH provides numerous common area amenities, walking paths and a secure interior courtyard.

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The Abbington Retirement Community in Cosh-hours a day to ensure that the needs of every resident is met around the clock. Staff are available to assist with basic needs such as bathing and dressing. An emergency call system located in each suite and throughout the common areas gives residents instant access to help when they really need it.

While Abbington Retirement Community residents have the option to prepare their own meals in their kitchenette, they can also eat 3 delicious meals and a snack everyday with friends in the dining room. Each apartment is equipped with local phone service and cable television for the times when residents want to be alone.

Medication is delivered by a local pharmacy and administered by licensed nurses. Abbington also offers a wide range of wellness services to promote the health and well-being of the seniors who live in the retirement community. Exercise programs, blood pressure and weight checks, therapy services, and falling risk assessments. Visit their site

The staff at Windsorwood Place – Coshocton would love to meet you and have the opportunity to give you a tour of our retirement community. The friendly and knowledgeable staff are dedicate to enhancing the lives of seniors by providing a comfortable and safe environment. Whether you want to take part in social activities provided by Abbington or leave the grounds to eat or shop in the community.

With the understanding that making the transition from a private residence to an assisted living facility is not always easy for a senior or their family members, the Abbington staff do their best to make the adjustment as comfortable as possible. The apartments at Windsorwood Place are large enough for seniors to bring some of their personal effects to make their new home theirs.

March 22, 2018 · Real Estate · (No comments)

Submitted by: Margaret Frolova Margaret Frolova

Ethnic Tour (nostalgic tour) is another wonderful exotic form of recreation. During these trips, tourists are exploring some ethnic populations, study their lives, especially culture, everyday moments, and so on. This is a good way to learn more about their roots or explore the history of the people by scientists or admirers. Thanks to this innovation in travel companies, many have found their distant relatives in foreign lands. Sometimes people have visited the places where their fathers, grandfathers, or themselves were evicted from these neighborhoods in a distant youth. Now, perhaps, it is clear why the other name is a nostalgic tour, in fact nostalgia calls the majority of people instead of resting on the sea waves to study some culture.

There are a lot of migrants in the world. The displacement can be divided into forced and voluntary. Causes of forced displacement of entire nations in the history can be all sorts of military, political, religious reasons. The reason for the voluntary resettlement is an economic factor: people are looking for a better life in other countries, in other lands, continents.

Speaking of nostalgia tours, you can select one of the subtypes of tourism such as visiting friends and relatives (relative and visitors tour). But this kind of tourism is not suitable for all people. Its only for those who have blood ties with the land where he or she is going.

Religious or pilgrim tour is one of the most popular types of tourism. Religion enveloped the whole world. Its opened to travel to famous religious places a long time ago. Pilgrimage to the Vatican, the Holy Land of Mecca is done for centuries.

Today’s reasons of pilgrim tours are different, ranging from ordinary curiosity and ending with trips to the shrine of your faith. Many want to strengthen their faith. There are those who want to cure illnesses and just visit all the holy places of the planet. Sometimes it’s the only chance to regain health.

You can also visit religious ceremonies, which take place around the world. And even atheistic attitude of many people to faith, has a number of tourist visits. The glaciers of Finland are the most colorful and popular places for people who are not very willing to visit holy places. Thousands of people from around the world travel to Finland on Christmas.

Its common knowledge that almost everybody likes travelling. But sometimes it is so difficult to decide which place to visit. We should mention that Europe always was attractive place for people from the whole world.

We share tips, which places should be included in your itinerary, what to try and see if you are going to Poland. We hope that this useful information will help make your trip exciting and memorable. Lets start.

What you should definitely taste in Poland:

Polish cuisine is hearty, varied and very tasty. Do you want to see for yourself? Then have a look on our list of top national dishes!

Zurek (soup with sausages, eggs and potatoes)

Bigos (second dish of cabbage and meat)

Flick (a thick soup of beef stomach)

Potato dumplings (gnocchi made from potatoes and flour)

Mazurek (pie pastry with jam)

Makovec (poppy seed cake)

Perogi – interesting variety of traditional Slavic cuisine dough products. And no, it’s not pies 🙂 Rather, perogi more like dumplings. Due to what turns out delicious and crisp, and the inside – juicy filling. You should try it!

Among the experienced hikers, there is a belief: if you want to see the true face of the city – walk on it without guides and excursions, soaking up the atmosphere and enjoying the urban landscape. However, what if you are lack of time and want to see as much as possible? For this case we have prepared a list of must-see in Warsaw.

About the Author: Margo is a writer-enthusiast, who specializes in organization, home decor, creative ideas, and random happy thoughts. Margo currently lives in Poland and holds the title of “reigning queen in her house full of boys” thanks to her husband and college sweetheart Stella and their two sons, Vlad and Luka. All the peoples live happily together. And Margaret also finds time to write articles, e.g. for

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November 9, 2017 · Real Estate · (No comments)

Submitted by: Nick Huxsted

I recently watched Stephen Fry uncover the hidden secrets of his family history on Who Do You Think You Are, and was quite captivated by something he said. At the start of his trip down genealogy lane he described his initial reaction to uncovering the past of his ancestors.

Its amazing how intimately interwoven with history we all are.

Now while most of the words that Mr. Fry utters are cause for interest and intrigue, these particular words made me think, an admitted rarity for my tennis ball brain. However having recently lost my grandparents, I became acutely aware of what Ive missed out on. I rarely asked them what it was like to live through the war, what they did and how it changed their lives. Stupid really. Many of us spend our time reading about what it was like, watching a documentary on National Geographic or stumbling through the pages of Wikipedia, intent on correctly answering a general knowledge question on the dates of Stalingrad (yes those little wedges in Trivial Pursuit are important). But surely getting first hand knowledge from your family over a cup of tea and a hob-nob is much more interesting. An emotive experience that is almost impossible to replicate with the idle click of a mouse. All of the experiences, trials and tribulations our ancestors went through, make us what we are today.

New research on Behavioural Epigenetics has made the connection between our ancestors and ourselves much closer than we think. It highlights that the experiences of our parents, grandparents etc. leave molecular scars on our DNA, influencing the way we actually behave. If our grandmother experienced neglect as a child, then we can become predisposed to depression and anxiety. No longer to be used as a metaphor, but understanding our past really does help us understand who we are today.

So, with all this rushing through my little yellow brain, I signed myself up for a free beginners course in genealogy at the Society of Genealogists in London. Better late than never.

The talk was taken by Else Churchill, and apart from being rather interesting, had some useful tips for beginners that have no idea (like myself) on how, or where to start researching our family history. So for all of you who would like to understand your past a little better, here are some of the tips.

Speak with your family

An obvious place to start, but do it sooner rather than later. If your grandparents can give you the names of their grandparents, what they did, when they were born, then you can quite easily cover off 100 years during a 5-minute conversation. Write down everything you know somewhere safe and use this as a springboard for the rest of your research. If you dont mind looking or feeling like a reporter, you can always ask if you can record the conversation. Not only will this be a useful record, but a sentimental reminder for the generations to come.

Sketch your family tree

Depending on your own artistic ability, you may decide to draw this yourself, or there are many free online services that allow you to start creating a family tree. Its not that complicated (although completing it may be a challenge) and try to use the correct terminology (m=marriage b=birth d=death MBD in short). If possible make copies of your initial findings as its likely mistakes will be made. Update your original or master copy only when youve confirmed the information is correct.

Be aware of different spellings

My own surname has changed over the years. Ive had Cs replaced with Xs, the letter A has completely vanished and Im starting to wonder if my ancestors were all criminals, intent on hiding their identity from the authorities. However, the point is, that just like the English language, surnames can change over time. Be aware of any alterations especially if you come across a dead-end.

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Rummage

Behaving like a badger can uncover many surprising and useful finds. We all have those boxes that are hidden under the bed or at the back of closets, filled with letters, documents and things we cant bring ourselves to throw away.

Things to look out for are:

– Service records during the wa

– Birth, death and marriage certificates

– Books with inscriptions on the inside cover (bibles apparently often have these)

– Photos, again look on the back for any notes

– Scrapbooks

– Memorabilia

– Collectables

– Letters

Archive and storage

When you start to collect and organise your research, try to keep a trail of all the documents, certificates, letters and photos in chronological order. Old documents may be fragile and youll want to keep them either in an acid free genealogy storage box, or in varying sized acid-free pocket refill sleeves within a binder album organiser to keep them safe and prevent further deterioration when showing them to your friends and family.

Places to research

When youve exhausted the research you can conduct at home it will be time to venture further afield. There are many sources for gathering your genealogical information. Some will be free, others, like ordering birth certificates from the General Register Office, will come with a relatively small fee. Places to research include:

– Online. There are literally hundreds of genealogy websites.

– Specialist archives

– Parish records

– Journals/books

– Local family history societies

– Census records (only available from 1844-1911)

– Wills, birth, death and marriage certificates

Magazines to help with research

There are a number of family history magazines that can also provide advice, tips and research information.

– Who Do You think You Are

– Family History

– Family Tree

– Your Family Tree

– Discover your ancestors

– Discover Your Ancestors

Example

A good example was given on the process of compiling your family tree. If you know the name of your great-grandfather, order a copy of his birth certificate from the General Register Office. On this document will be the names of his parents. And so another step backwards-in time has been taken. You can then continue this journey, or investigate the various lives and experiences of the people you come across. After all, what they went through and the choices they made, have a large part to play in your existence on this planet. Without them wed still be just a twinkle in the milkmans eye.

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